Thursday, 15 December 2016

What to do with your clients .........

One of the keys to being a great coach, therapist, teacher or trainer is behavioral flexibility.  Wouldn't it be great if all clients were motivated, compliant and able to follow and process instructions. If they could then there would never be any difficult clients.  Have you ever had a client or even found yourself motivated, with well-formed outcomes having done an ecology check and yet still not making progress? 

What do you do then?

And of course after the NLP Trainings in London the new graduates often post on social media looking for the way to help people overcome specific problems.

I remember vividly from my NLP Training, initially as a student and then as an assistant for many years Richard Bandlers response’s to students questions.  Once after being asked by a student what to do to help someone overcome a specific problem where his reply was “use the technique that works” and students being told “if what you are doing isn’t working do something else”.  

Initially this can seem daunting to some.

Over the years I have helped thousands achieve their goals; I personally love the different ways in which humans manage to process information and create various outcomes in their lives.   And the way in which NLP can be used, moulded to meet the needs of the client.

Just think even if you aren’t getting the outcome that you want, there is something that you are doing within your mind that makes the outcome you don’t want, the correct outcome for what you are doing.

A while ago, I worked with a cage fighter with a phobia of vegetables.  Fit, healthy, six foot four male, quite happy to fight another man in a cage and yet couldn’t be in the same room as vegetables without having an overwhelming urge to run away.

He had already been to see a cognitive behavioural therapist, hypnotherapist and NLP Practitioner.  Apparently nothing they suggested worked.  The cognitive behavioural therapist wanted him to use diversion techniques, the hypnotist used positive suggestions and hypnotic desensitisation whilst the NLP Practitioner tried the NLP fast phobia cure.  Each told him they had the answer but only tried one approach, and that didn’t work.

Experience has taught me its not always a case of what technique to use for what problem, it may be that a combination of things are needed by the person you are coaching.  The more experience and skills you have combined with how flexible you are in your responses equals the most success with your clients.

At January’s practice group we’ll be exploring strategies, amongst other things to look at how to put it all together; come and join us for a day of practice, learning and fun.

And in the spring Alessandro Mora, Steve Crabb and I will be running a Licensed NLP Coach certificated course.  Teaching you how you can use your NLP skills with various Coaching Methods covering Business, Life and Sports Coaching.  Contact Tina Taylor for details of Decembers offer for the Licensed NLP Coach certification in London.