The most frequent question I see people asking on social media is .......

The most frequent question I am asked and see being asked on Social Media is “What is the technique I need to use for X?”  (Insert here a variety of problems from curing a phobia to stopping addictions to dealing with depression)

This is usually asked by newly certified Practitioners who are keen to use their skills and help others achieve their goals; some of these are just beginning to create a new career as an NLP Practitioner and or Coach.

What are problems?

There are problems with problems, sounds silly I know but if you take that statement literally the major problem with problems is that they force us into thinking that something is wrong.  When in reality the problematic result that we get is the right result for that particular strategy. 

So what is a problem?  A problem is a result, an achievement that is different from what you wanted, or the difference between where you are now and where you want to be.

Most of us have been trained from a very early age to respond to problems by avoiding them, learning to move away from them, which is very different from moving towards our goals. 

Identifying what makes the problem a problem; in a very different way through their perceptual filters – their model of the world, and being able to identify their meta programs, is a great way to start identifying what they can do to make the changes their desire.

The first thing important in solving any problem is knowing their role in the problem.  What did they do that created that result? 

Those of you who have attended a Society of NLP Practitioner training will recognise this as the Present State.

One of the things Dr Richard Bandler asks people when demonstrating techniques at the seminars is “If I’m going to do this for you for a day, give you a day off from your problems, what do I have to do?”

He gets the strategy from them that created the problem he can then help them change by changing and installing a new strategy.

When working with clients I begin by getting this information from them.

a. What do they want?   Stated in the positive, so many people can happily tell you what they don’t want.  I don’t want to feel this way, I want to stop smoking, eating too much etc etc etc.  Time to coach them into discovering what they want instead.

b. What resources do they have to accomplish this?  If not currently within their control, what do they need to do to make it so?   To be well formed their goal needs to be something within their control. 

c. How will they know when they have it?  What will you see, hear, feel etc? Are they able to establish their goal in all sensory based systems?  Can they imagine/ see themself achieving their goal? 

d. What will happen when they get this result, how will it affect their life, family, career etc?   Check to preserve the positive intention of the present state, that it is ecologically sound and good for them to achieve.

This information will give me strategies, meta programs, rep systems, language patterns, beliefs and values and from here I can begin to teach them how they can make the changes they want and achieve their goals.

On more than one occasion I have heard Dr Bandler’s response to the question “What technique should I use when helping someone with X (various problems have been mentioned here) his response is always the same.  The one that works.

By paying attention to client and the information given it makes it so easy to know what to do next.

It also makes giving advice on social media when asked what do I do when working with someone with depression almost impossible; as the how to proceed depends on the individual.

How do you get good at this, practice, practice and practice some more.

The next practice group in London is 20 January at Regents College more details can be found here 

https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/nlp-hypnosis-practice-group-day-tickets-37650834660

The Importance of Stress Management the Workplace

Nowadays the medical profession, employers and HR professionals are recognizing just how much stress seems to be in the workplace.  Governments are setting up various rules that need to be followed to ensure that people are able to cope with todays stressors.

We all live under increasing pressure these days, and many of the corporate clients we work with present with issues around stress, but what is ‘stress’ exactly?

The standard definition is something like the emotional, physiological and psychological effects caused by a build up of either internally or externally generated mental pressure ….

Everyone responds differently to stress. Some may have anxiety, panic attacks, or display aggressive behavior. Others find it affects their digestive system or make them feel tired or run down. We have had people describe sudden feelings of fear or panic, early morning waking, feeling edgy or bad tempered, upset Stomach, diarrhea, or constipation, poor concentration, constantly feeling exhausted, palpitations, headaches or migraine, feeling tense, all manner of aches and pains, and much much more

Excessive stress in your life interferes with your interpersonal relationships at home, on the job, and socially. Stress can waste your vitality and deplete your personal energy resources. You can become negatively influenced in your attitudes and feelings about yourself more easily. More seriously, medical research estimates as much as 90 percent of illness and disease is stress-related. It can interfere with your physical functioning and bodily processes, raise blood pressure and directly harms the cardiovascular system. Stress depresses the immune system and allows chronic illnesses to overwhelm us, It can cause real pain, disability, and even death.

With the advent of rules and regulations regarding stress in the workplace many companys are actively seeking ways to deal with this issue in house.  Stress management courses are becoming the norm in the business environment.

Hypnosis is the ideal tool to use to learn new ways to cope more effectively.  Its a powerful tool to counteract stress and stress related illness, and one of the fastest and the easiest way to relax deeply by lowering heart rate and blood pressure and relaxing muscle tension. Hypnosis is a relaxed and focused state of mind and people can be trained to enter this state in just a few sessions. Once trained, most clients can induce a self-hypnotic state at any convenient times during their day simple and easily.

Our Foundation Course in Clinical Hypnotherapy not only gives you a solid foundation in using and creating the trance state it also qualifies to you be a Stress Management Consultant.  Giving you strategies that can translate into a lucrative business teaching stress management techniques.

Details of our next Foundation Course can be found here …….  https://icchypnotherapy.com/training-courses/clinical-hypnotherapy/

I've got my certificate now what do I do?

For some, making the transition from practicing NLP in the comfort of a training venue to ‘out there’ in the real world is a daunting prospect.   Working with other delegates who have some knowledge of NLP is much easier than being in the big wide world listening to someone who has a real problem and no idea what NLP is or how hypnosis works.

The question I am asked most frequently usually begins with, “I have a client with x and I have tried y and it didn’t work, I don’t know what to do now, I’ve tried the “name of technique” and the client is just stuck, what do you suggest my next move is?”

Frequently, my first reply is based on something I learned during my Practitioner and Master Practitioner courses, Richard Bandler said: “there is no such thing as a resistant client”.

As NLP Practitioners we all know that our state drives our success.  When you become stuck, consider checking that you have the most beneficial state to work with your client.  Is your inner dialogue yelling “Its not working, its not working”, or something equally unhelpful. Are you making pictures of failed outcomes, or allowing yourself to sink into a feeling of despair or panic? Remember, “go there first, get your own state under control”.

Now, have you really heard what your client said?

Just recently at the last Practitioner and Master Practitioner in London Richard Bandler said there were no correct techniques to use only those that worked.  That by paying attention to the person in front of you, you will notice what is needed as they will tell you.

Do you know what they want, what is their desired state, what will be different as a result of achieving this desired state?

Does your client understand what is being asked of them? 

Whilst viewing sessions conducted by newly qualified practitioners I have witnessed a complete lack of understanding between Practitioner and client.  One example of this is where the practitioner says “I’m just going to anchor that for you”, and the client wonders if they’re seeing your for coaching or about to embark on a cruise?  Keep your explanations simple.

So many people once they have attended their NLP training wonder what to do, how do they put it all together?

In 18 days in Londons Docklands you have the perfect opportunity to learn how to put it all together.

Learn from three of Dr Richard Bandlers Licensed Master Trainers, Steve Crabb, Alessandro Mora and Tina Taylor who all run highly successful coaching businesses within the Life, Business and Sports Coachng arena.

Sometimes people who learn NLP come away from their training with a lot of techniques, have a great attitude, but they don’t know where to start to create their coaching practice: we’ll tell you step by step! This is the best of our best. You’ll learn the strategies developed in over 40 combined years of coaching practices, so that you can save time and money and start creating success.

Check out https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/licensed-nlp-coach-tickets-28831551948 for more details and to book your place.  

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Doing what you love ......

How would you like to live the dream? Have the freedom to work the hours you choose whilst creating a highly lucrative business?  All whilst you are helping others achieve their goals.

This may sound too good to be true, yet this is the reality for many coaches.

The demand for high quality professional coaches is outstripping supply as more companies, clubs, athletes, entrepreneurs, managers, corporations are looking for a coach who can help them to achieve better results.

Great coaching makes a difference.

That’s why COACHING is becoming so valuable a set of skills for you to learn.

A lot of people after completing their NLP training think about using their NLP skills; some think about becoming a hypnotherapist whilst many think about becoming coaches.  They consider how they can make this happen, maybe they are looking for a career change to something more satisfying. 

I’m lucky in that I love my job, and get to do what I love every day, how much time do you spend doing the things that you love?

If you want to become a great coach, doing something that you love, being of service and run a profitable business then this is your opportunity to “fast track” your way to success.

If you want to know how to own a profitable coaching business your search ends here.

Running a thriving coaching business requires vision, knowledge, practice and tenacity and can take time.  That’s why this Coaching programme is unique and is so valuable: it is based upon real experience and will save you time, money and a whole lot of effort.

More details are available here https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/licensed-nlp-coach-tickets-28831551948

Contact Tina Taylor to see if there are any offers available on this seminar.

tina@tina-taylor.com